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A Brave New World

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Adolescence has hit our house hard. I have several reminders I say to myself over and over:
don’t take it personally,
don’t engage,
choose your battles,
remember that her brain is not fully developed yet,
murder is a crime.

It’s like that Twilight Zone episode with Billy Mumy who has special powers and can wish you into a cornfield if you displease him. What is going to set her off today – is it saying Hello? Is it walking into the room? At times it’s like my husband and I are tiptoeing around and thinking, “Please don’t turn me into a jack-in-the-box.”

What I love most about parenting is the work that it requires you to do on yourself. It’s really not about our children, it’s about how we react to them. As an introvert, navel-gazing and self-absorption and an obsession with “why did I do that?” are second nature to me. Parenting brings the issues to the forefront and I love wrestling with the big questions.

I take my soft moments with her as they come: watching Lost together, walking around Old Town and eating fudge, tickling her back while we sit on the sofa, discussing David Tennant versus Matt Smith. We are raising her with all the freedom and support that we can muster, so now I have to give her the benefit of the doubt and trust in all of us.

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Canoe


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I work four mornings a week at an adult enrichment center. We offer stimulation and community for people with dementia and moderate Alzheimer’s, and a respite for their caregivers. Aging can be unforgiving and there’s nothing better than looking at those on the front lines to make you think about what’s around the corner. It has a way of focusing your attention on retirement funds and living in the present and taking better care of yourself.

I can only imagine what it’s like to be trapped in a thin slice of time without your memories as a soft cocoon around you. To know that you have a daughter but not remember her name.

I came across this poem in The Spectator today that meshes with thoughts of impermanence.

Canoe
Well, I am thinking this may be my last
summer, but cannot lose even a part
of pleasure in the old-fashioned art of
idleness. I cannot stand aghast

at whatever doom hovers in the background;
while grass and buildings and the somnolent river,
who know they are allowed to last forever,
exchange between them the whole subdued sound

of this hot time. What sudden fearful fate
can deter my shade wandering next year
from a return? Whistle and I will hear
and come another evening, when this boat

travels with you alone towards Iffley:
as you lie looking up for thunder again,
this cool touch does not betoken rain;
it is my spirit that kisses your mouth lightly.

by Keith Douglas

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